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Well I’m not a ‘new’ Mum, I’m not even a ‘new’ Nan! I have two grown children both married with kids of their own, I was widowed and became a single mum. Remarried and gained 7 step children all grown and with children of their own, except one, she and her partner are content to have a dog. And a football team or two of grandkids and foster children. So you could say I have had a bit of experience. From nappy rash to microwaved cats, yes it’s true, but we will leave that for another day.
It is interesting to listen to all the young new mums’ blogging away about successful parenting, and whilst on the most part, all I read is very good advice, but from my experience, the most important aspect of parenting is respect – respect for yourself and respect for your child and understanding that what works for one may not work for another, and it is important to remember that that is okay! Successful parenting is understanding what works best for you and your child – and that was exactly my experience, as I had to adjust my style to accommodate the unique personalities of each of my children.
If I was to give any advice on the matter, what I would say is that ‘parenting’ is a journey not a destination! So enjoy the many phases along the way. That old saying ‘Life is short’ is oh so true and it is fleeting, it goes so quickly. Baby’s one minute and you blink in your busy life and then find your baby has babies.
Second and most important tip, get help! Don’t try to do it on your own, have a good support network around you, such as your mum, sister, cousin or friends – they will love to take baby for a few minutes while you sit and have a cuppa or just some down time for yourself. Of course, everyone will want to give you advice, you’ll soon learn to filter the good from the not so good – trust your own intuition! And most importantly, there is no need to reinvent the wheel!
Okay, so back to filtering the good from the bad advice – and it is ok to laugh at me, I do all the time. When my son was born I was only 22 years, he was 8lb 14oz or 3.692kg, he was a healthy eater and I breast fed. He liked his food, he just ate and ate, one feed finished and within less than 2 hrs he was up and wanting more. My hubby called him the Michelin man which is a brand of tyres because he looked like he was made of a pile of tyres he had so many rolls. He said this with affection but he was a little more than chubby. He threw up all the time, projectile! I had to take 3 sets of clothes for him and 4 for me if we went out anywhere. The first Christmas, Santa didn’t want to hold him in case he threw up on him anyway, my mother-in-law told me that it was because my milk was sour. I was devastated to think I was feeding my baby sour milk…… Really! Could that even be true? I was so naïve. Yes I trusted her and what she said. I so should have asked someone else. If you’re not sure ask! No one will make fun of you or your lack of knowledge, I have raised my two and now have grandchildren, I also foster care and I still have to ask.
One of my grandsons is autistic and he doesn’t sleep well. My daughter was perplexed a few months back when a Paediatrician told her to put dark curtains at his window and turn off the light and lock him in of a night and let him sort it out. Not keen to put this plan into action, she sought my advice to talk it through. In the end we agreed the dark curtains were a good idea, but he is scared of the dark, so she has put a little night light on for him, and will gradually dull it until he becomes accustomed and comfortable with the change so he can safely overcome his fear of the dark. The important lesson here is that it didn’t feel right so she asked for help – not that she really needed to but it was good to know that someone had her back!
Life and motherhood are full of little bleepers so keep a journal. It is entertaining to sit with a cuppa and read what you wrote and how you felt on certain days over certain events and you will find them much more humorous after few weeks, months maybe years down the track, depending on the incident. Some incidents take longer to move for trauma to humour, like the microwaved cat (and just to relieve any fears, it all worked out in the end – thankfully, no harm done).
Find a little quote that you can repeat over to yourself, my daughter always sings the Frozen theme song to me ‘let it go, let it go’ or perhaps the serenity prayer ‘God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference’. Mine was ‘be patient God hasn’t finished with them yet’.
Take care! X
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Cotton is breathable!!!! That is, the air flows through the fibres allowing it to breath unlike its synthetic or oil-based nemesis! It is perfect for clothing worn close to the skin as its conductive properties keep the body cool in the summer and warm in the winter. Some of the benefits that are hard to pass up:
- ‘Kids just wanna have fun!’ and cotton stands up to the dirt test again and again – it is both practical and durable, those little cotton fibres are pretty tough!
- And after a hard day’s play, just throw them in the washing machine and your work is done! Cotton is one of the easiest fabrics to care for – just be sure to follow the care instructions for optimal results.
- Being breathable means it doesn’t retain odours – so more wear, wash less (sounding pretty good to me!).
- Cotton is not clingy! It is soft, absorbent and breathable and as it can’t hold an electric charge, your cotton clothes won’t cling or stick to you and irritate your skin. The absorbency of cotton keeps the moisture away from the skin. In fact, cotton is so absorbent it can hold up to 27 times its own weight in water!
- Versatility is the key! Cotton can be woven or knitted into a whole range of fabrics such as chambray, lace, corduroy, jersey and terry, so no matter whether it is work, sleep or play – cotton has your back!
I reckon we have ‘cottoned on’ to something pretty cool here. In addition to these fantastic benefits, organic cotton offers even more – read all about it in our blog ‘what’s so great about organic cotton’.
Feel free to browse our store and check out our store and check out our 100% organic products.
Kate & Kim
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'Cute As' is very proud to announce the accreditation of our 'Cute As' Designer Range as meeting the Australian Made standards. That means, that we are accredited to use the Australian Made logo on our 'Cute As' Designer products, which means you can be 100% confident that our products have been designed and made right here in Australia.
Displaying the Australian Made logo is the best way to identify genuine Aussie products! The logo campaign was launched back in 1986 by the then Prime Minster Bob Hawke to encourage Australians to buy genuine Aussie products and in doing so reinvesting back into the Australian community and economy. The 'Australian Made' logo is now in its third decade and research has show that it is both universally recognised (98%) and trusted (89%).
You will find our products listed and approved on the Australian Made official website.
Kim & Kate
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Did you know that there are over 100 pests that attack the cotton plant? Farmers spray the crop with chemical pesticides to terminate the pests which then contaminates the cotton itself. BUT they get a better quality of cotton because it hasn’t been destroyed by the pests and they also get a higher yield making the pesticides an attractive and necessary evil. The downside to this is that the cotton has chemicals in it, that’s correct, 100% cotton isn’t pure cotton. Some farmers use genetically modified cotton plants that have the pesticides in them that kill the pests as soon as they take a nibble. Again, the downside is the cotton contains the pesticide.
Certified Organic farmers use natural means to control the pests. The downside for the farmer is that they harvest less. The farmer will spend most of their time and resources trying to naturally keep the crop pest free, if they don’t then the quality of the fibre suffers and the crop is of inferior quality. This process is costly to the farmer and subsequently makes the organic cotton more expensive also.
The reason the extra money is well spent when it comes to your baby is that most toxins are absorbed through our skin rather than ingested (baby’s skin is more sensitive and a lot thinner than an adults). Of course, that’s not to say that we don’t ingest them also, but the larger amount is through our skin.
Buying Organic is an investment in not only the comfort of naturally soft cotton, but also in the wellbeing of your precious little one.
There has been an increase in eczema and skin allergies which could be attributed to the toxins we absorb through our skin. Harsh detergents including soaps as also contribute to skin allergies.
In buying organic clothing for your baby you are reducing the risk of skin allergies and unwelcome toxins being absorbed by your baby through their skin.
Till next time …
Kim & Kate